Minnesota Day One Crisis Hotline

Ask To Help

When we suspect that someone is experiencing violence in their relationship, we know that something should be done about it, but most of us don’t feel it’s our place to intervene.

“It’s not my business”.

But it is. It’s time for all of us to stand up and make domestic violence our business and take responsibility for our community.

In order to end domestic violence, kids can’t learn the behavior.
In order for kids to not learn the behavior, adults can’t teach it.
It needs to be clear to everyone that the behavior is wrong and that it needs to stop.

What can we do?

We can Ask to Help.

Ask to Help is:

A call to action to start breaking the silence that surrounds domestic violence.

A community effort involving:

  • Family and friends
  • Neighbors
  • Co-workers
  • Teachers
  • Faith communities
  • Doctors and nurses
  • Law enforcement
  • Social service providers
  • Men and boys

A movement to empower society to talk about domestic violence in a new way.

We must all Ask to Help. But where do we start?

You don’t need to have all the answers. We’ll help you. To begin, learn how to support someone who may be in an abusive relationship.

Ready to do more? Here are some steps you can take:

  • Ask to help. Don’t be afraid to start the conversation. The safety of another human being is your business. Some ideas of what to say:
    • “Really, are you ok?”
    • “I want to help. What can I do to support you?”
    • “How can I help protect your safety?”
    • “I really care about you. Can I offer some resources?”
  • Suggest ways to get help. Learn about, and then suggest ways to get additional support:
    • “Let’s develop a safety plan together.”
    • “If you need to go to someone for help, I can go with you for support.”
    • “Here’s the Minnesota Day One Crisis Hotline number: 1-866-223-1111. You can call anytime you need to.”

Additional Resources

Medical Screening Guide for Healthcare


Domestic Violence Guide for Educators 

Resources in Minnesota

Day One® of Cornerstone
One call, one result: your safety. You’ll be connected with the nearest safe place. You’ll get a warm bed, comfort, and someone to talk to. You’ll receive the help you deserve — Immediately. Minnesota Day One® Crisis Hotline 1-866-223-1111

Cornerstone’s 24-Hour Helpline: 952-884-0330
Staffed around the clock, seven days a week, our helpline provides immediate access to all emergency services and referrals for individuals and families that are in crisis due to domestic violence, sexual violence and exploitation.

Cornerstone’s Concerned Persons Support Group
This support group provides education on domestic violence and resources for people who care about someone who is in an abusive relationship. It is a forum for people to discuss, share their experience and support one another. Contact Cornerstone at 952-884-0376 for more information.

Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women (MCBW)

Minnesota Coalition Against Sexual Assault (MNCASA)